MARRIAGE is a huge commitment that shouldn’t be entered into lightly, and one woman has developed a checklist for couples before they say I do.
Twitter user @cxkenobxkerry shared her list of 20 things that every couple should discuss before they walk down the aisle.
A woman has revealed the 20 things you should discuss as a couple before getting married [/caption]
While she has not been married herself, the woman says that she was previously engaged so “knows what she’s talking about.”
Her thread has since had more than 220,000 likes from her followers, many of them married who agreed they wished they had spoken about the same issues before marrying.
Responding one wrote: “All engaged people should go through this so they can count the true cost of marriage before they get married, most dealbreakers agreed before minimising shocks.”
Here we reveal the 20 issues she recommends that you should confront your partner about before getting married…
1. Talk about debt
2. FULLY and WILLINGLY committing to one another
“No ‘I’m not sure’ and ‘what ifs’ and ‘it’s not the right time’, you are either in or you’re OUT.”
3. When/how many kids y’all want (adoption? are one of you infertile? etc.)
“Get checked. Seek medical help/informed professional knowledge. Keep those tests up to date and find ways to do so even within the marriage.”
5. Talk about your 5-10 year timeline regarding career/education
“Can you move? Willingness to relocate? Etc.”
She says it’s important to be on the same page when it comes to your finances [/caption]
“Openness to growth? Lack Thereof? Do you share fundamental CORE beliefs about life? VERY important.”
7. Anger management issues
“Do one of you struggle? Are you in therapy for it/taking it out on others? Seek help, because it will destruct you and the future and the children….”
“Does it match? you decide. Follow your gut.”
“It may seem like a small problem but small things eventually ADD up. Make sure your expectations MATCH one another to full comfort.”
10. Sexual compatibility
“Not going to go into details, but y’all need to be on the same playing field. Consent wise, willingness to try things, traumas, etc… figure it out.”
Sexual compatibility is also an important factor[/caption]
“How do you intend on splitting bills? Gender roles? Taking the parents in during old age? Etc.”
12. Age doesn’t matter too much
“In my experience it’s about the person & what their world views are.
“If you are young, make sure the person you’re with will allow you to keep growing at your own pace and in your own way. It’s called respect.”
13. Boundaries when it comes to the opposite sex
“Set what’s okay. What’s not okay. Hugs/handshakes/etc.
“I know it sounds trivial & trust should be there but you’d be surprised what people’s boundaries are. Better to know than not know.”
14. Social media
“Believe it or not, people WILL break up over this. Some prefer privacy. Some not. Get on the same page or you’ll be clowning on one another.”
“How much do y’all have earned & combined? How much are your intended salaries? Is it sustainable? Apartment? House? Condos? Etc.
“Speak futuristically if it’s not something you can afford right now. Get on the same page.”
16. What is cheating?
“Entanglements? Define your breaks? Breakups? Etc”.
17. Physical and verbal abuse
“What is and isn’t considered abusive language and decorum? Seek help, please. Professionals can always step in.”
18. What are your dying wishes?
“Burial proceedings? What if one of you becomes paralyzed? God parents? Uncertain events? Death? Speak it. Speak on all of it.”
19. LOVE is not what keeps relationships going
“An active commitment to LOVE, despite the downfalls, keeps it going. Get out the princess-king happily ever after mindset and you’ll be fine.”
20. Education doesn’t matter
“I want everyone to notice how I failed to mention the level of education, family or tribal background, ethnicity, job level, & all.
“It’s because none of this matters in the long run. Trust. you ain’t a good person based off superficial attributes.”
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